Caregiving can be a challenge. In order to minimize that challenge, a Caregiver can learn a few tools to help themselves have an easier time of it. By following these 5 suggestions, some of the burden of Caregiving can be minimized. Let’s be clear. These tools do not take away the tasks the Caregiver must perform, but they take away some of the BURDEN of the tasks.
THIS POST is Part 2 with the last two of the 5 suggestions revealed in Part 1.
4. LOVE CHANGES.
- Think back to the moment you knew you were in love with your Spouse. Remember that incredible feeling of joy that filled your entire soul?
- Then after you were married for many years, had that love changed? Was it more a feeling of contentment and peace when you were with them?
- Did the stroke alter that feeling of contentment and peace? Is it more a feeling of “duty” and an overwhelmed sense of family?
That’s 3 different forms of love right there.
Here’s the concept: as the circumstances in our lives change, so does the Love that accompanies that change. Now that you are a Caregiver, you are a part of yet another form of love. It is extra specially wonderful as it is “unconditional love” where nothing is expected in return. This is the most amazing love of all. As a caregiver, YOU get to experience this unconditional love for your patient. I recommend living in gratitude that one gets to experience this form of love.
5. Remember the Caregiver’s Rule.
“Take care of yourself first, so you CAN take care of others.”
This is easy to do on a daily basis. Here are a few short tips on how to have your daily dose of respite. Respite means taking time off from your Caregiving tasks to be kind to yourself.
- 5 minute break for a cup of your favorite tea
- 5 minutes of meditation
- a short walk around the block, or in a nearby park
When you have time for longer spaces of respite, try these tips.
- Once a month trip to the spa
- And dare I say it? VACATION
One more hint: chapter 10 of my book, “Don’t Stop the Music: Finding the Joy in Caregiving” is entitled, “Re-Creating the Joy of travelling.” It gives ideas on how to travel with and without your patient. For my full story on travel, it’s available on amazon.com, barnesandnoble.com and balboapress.com.
For more information about the book, see my personal website at http://www.dontstopthemusic.co
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